
Do you have a big dream inside of you that just knaws away at you, day and night? I know I do. So what are we meant to do with the things we hope for? This dream that is incubating away in you is actually a template for the future. So how will you get there? You do it by making the right choices and taking strategic steps one right after the other, day in and day out. One of the biggest hindrances to reaching our goals is the problem of ‘big score’ mentality. This way of seeing things puts the goal or the desire of your heart right in front of you. What’s wrong with that? Not very much but the reality is you build a big dream into reality with good thinking and by setting shorter targets to boost your achievement. What do I mean? Well, consider the great wall of China. It was built over a period of time and courtesy of overview effect we see the finished product and marvel. However, that ‘dream’ was built over a period of time. It was built with human hands over a sustained period of time. If you have a big score mentality you will also be looking for the next hit rather than realising the ‘big thing’ can be achieved with a progressive steady plan of growth. Even if you require a big miracle… it’s still made up of smaller ones! So here are some ideas for avoiding ‘big score’ mentality.
Make your goal specific
When you are thinking about your future and the goal you have think about precisely what it is you want. What is the core desire or aim of what you plan to achieve. For example, I want a PhD. It’s a desire of my heart. The first thing I did was finish a bachelor’s degree then enrol in a research masters degree, then I enrolled in a PhD once I had finished the masters. I made my goal very specific. If you can’t do this… don’t worry. Live for a while. Soon enough you will find something that you really want to do.
What are the steps required to reach the goal
Each step was towards my ultimate goal. I am almost there … and yes it’s taken ten years to reach this point. Is ten years a very long time to reach a goal? During those long hours slaving over a PC yes it does seem like a long time. But, it doesn’t matter once you have completed what you set out to do. So long as you focus yourself on writing each day, even if it’s one page a day. You will have 365 pages of quality material by the end. Each step is another step towards the goal. Over this time I didn’t allow the goal be overshadowed by how much the actual work and my job drained my energy. You simply can’t afford to allow your energy to be sapped away by the routine nature of making money. Remember, one step closer is better than one step backwards.
See the big score as coming in stages
I think this is where most people become disheartened. They lose confidence in themselves because of the bigness of the goal. If you aren’t able to conceptualise the stages or phases required to build your goal then you will you find yourself becoming discouraged. Set your self progress targets towards the goal on a month by month basis. How much closer are you to realising it? Measure it against the end result and see you will be pleasantly surprised. To continue my previous point, see the steps as ‘phases in reaching the big score’. A man I know has a dream of being a millionaire. But for every dollar he makes he spends at least 50% on lottery, gambling or other means of big score dreams. I am not joking when I say if he had of put at least half of his money away for an extended period of time he would be just about there by now. The promise of an immediate payoff for no real effort in his mind is greater than the possibility he will make sustained money over a period of time. This is what we call the gambler’s fallacy. While my friend has deep seeded mental reasons for his gambling addiction and this in part explains his behaviour. Most of us do not recognise just how successful we could be if we consistently saw our big goals as a set of steps or goals to be reached. Instead, I think we see the desire and think well that’s what I will have at the expense of setting short term goals and reaching those targets over a period of time.
Don’t listen to morons
In short keep your goal a secret if you are worried about your progress. Once, I had a dream to be in movies and I decided to tell everyone in the video store that that’s what I want to do. After awhile of no achievement I became constantly discouraged by people around me saying, ‘Hey you where’s that movie?’ If you have a big dream keep it quiet or else the morons will get you down.
Don’t be afraid to try alternative paths
As you break down the dream into the steps required (or if you like the tactics you need to employ) think about how can do this. Is your current plan giving you the realistic growth that you expected. If it isn’t don’t be afraid to try different ideas along the way. Whatever you do… don’t give up! I know many people that come and go with a desire to do this or that and once the reality of the stepped phases sets in they simply find it too difficult and walk away. Most people I have met that have a dream are like this. If you are stuck go talk to a friend, collegue or someone about it. Another persons viewpoint may be just the thing you need to get there.
Remember that it is okay to dream your goals and plan to have. It’s okay to visualise the possibility of you having it and seeing yourself with it. But, there comes a time when you must work off a plan and begin to take small steps towards your desire. There are times where you can’t see what to do. In those times don’t give up… walk away for a while and come back. After a period of time, some research or perhaps some discussions with people you know, the answer will become clear. In short to avoid big score mentality we need to focus ourselves on understanding how we think and how we act. If you desire the big hit that’s good BUT remember there will be little actions that go along side it.
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